Oh, ok, I'll stay out of your way then.

[forgotten_aria]

I wish in our society it was ok to walk up to someone and say "do you just not like me?" and actually get an honest answer. That and "Do you just tolerate me because our business relationship forces you too, but you actually find me rather annoying?"

Comments

[chenoameg.livejournal.com]

That sounds sucky.

If you knew the answer to those questions what would change?

[forgotten-aria.livejournal.com]

I would try to stay out of their hair and be quiet more often.

[blk]

Would that actually improve anything for you? Seems like if I actively tried to plan my life around everybody who sometimes doesn't like me, I'd be constantly busy and overstressed thinking about it.

[forgotten-aria.livejournal.com]

I wouldn't plan my life ournd it. but I wouldn't require them or me to do any of hte fake pleasentries. I might also change my priorities.

[eccentrific.livejournal.com]

Well, one question that comes to mind is "Does it matter?"
If they are being unpleasant enough to be around to make you ask that question, it seems like that might be reason enough right there to avoid them, without needing to know whether it's because they don't like you or simply lack social skills or anything else.

[forgotten-aria.livejournal.com]

It does matter. most of these people are pleasent enough to me. It's not like they're hostlile. I just get the feeling that they're putting on a face and they're annoyed with me and it might be nice if I could just be more ignorable.

[honeyartichoke.livejournal.com]

is this something consistent? could it be something else they had on their mind when dealing with you, and not a reaction to you?

anyway, if they're not asking you to change anything, and are reasonably pleasant to you - is that not enough? no one gets along perfectly with everybody. and if they really don't like you, i doubt anything you do would change that.